Top 10 Reasons Guys Don’t Want To Date You: Help! Guys Don’t Want To Date Me!

Getting rejected a lot? Are you starting to worry that you may have a man-repelling magnet attached to you? Well, maybe you do! I mean, if you are getting rejected a lot, the common denominator is you. That’s the bad news. The good news is that once you recognize what is scaring guys away, you can fix it or eliminate it and stop the issue.

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Top 10 Reasons Guys Reject You

1. Your Presentation Sucks

You should be comfortable, but dirty clothes with holes in them that are five sizes too big, are not attractive. You may think, “Hey, I look casual and I’m being true to myself,” but, really, you are sending a message to guys that you just don’t care.

Moreover, if a guy sees dirty clothes or clothes that make you look way too big, then how can he know whether or not he is really physically attracted to you. He can’t see past the clothes.

I have seen guys not notice a girl in one outfit, but then notice her when she dresses a little more feminine. (In fact, I’ve been that girl. Same guy, different outfit, different reaction to me.)

2. You Are A Clown – Without The Clown Job

If you look drastically different during the day from when you wake up, you are probably wearing too much makeup. Don’t fool yourself, guys can tell when you have too much makeup on.

Makeup can make you look good, but most guys like women who are a little more natural when it comes to makeup. Moreover, most guys like to know what a woman REALLY looks like – and not be surprised if he ever catches her without make up.

Be proud of your face and use makeup to accentuate, not alter.

3. You Full Time Job Is Talking

Young woman with a glass of wine talking to a man at the bar

Most of us like to talk…and talk and talk. But, guys also enjoy talking. Moreover, they enjoy a quite time once in a while too.

When you talk too much, you are lacking in communication skills. Listening is a huge part of communicating, and if you start listening you will find that you have an easier time relating to men as well as making them feel good around you.

4. You Have A Victim Mentality

  • My life sucks.
  • She’s a bitch.
  • Everything always goes wrong for me.
  • Can you believe that she did that to me?
  • This should have been scheduled at a better time.

These are just a few examples of what people with a victim mentality say. And guess what – guys will only listen to this for so long before they find someone more positive and optimistic.

The good news is that you can move through a victim mentality. Make it a priority if you have a victim attitude, because it will help you get men, but also be happier in your own life.

5. Your Comfort Zone Dictates What You Do

There are specific rules that you stick to. You won’t sing in front of people because that is stupid (but you are really just uncomfortable doing it.) Or, you won’t walk through the rain because your hair will get messed up (and you are uncomfortable with messy hair around other people.)

Here’s the thing: Life is for the living. Step out of your comfort zone and have fun and you will see that guys will be attracted to you like moths to a light.

6. You Are Not Yourself

Man looking at a pretty woman who appears not to be interested

Don’t be fake. You know when you are doing it. You pretend to be someone you are not in order to impress a guy, but really it just backfires on you sooner or later because he will find out.

Be yourself. Be unique. Be a girl that he can’t find anywhere else. He will love that.

7. You Are Too Loud

I see this all the time. In my opinion, loud women are trying to get attention, and it is annoying! It is like they have to let you know what they are doing, who they are talking to, what they are feeling, all in a loud (hear me roar) type voice.

If a guy is busy watching everyone who is listening to you (because you are demanding their attention) then he is going to be less focused on you. Most guys don’t want a girl who needs attention like this. Most guys don’t like to hear someone screaming in their ear. Most guys don’t want to date a girl that doesn’t need a megaphone to be heard by all.

8. You Expect Him To Be Someone He Is Not

We are all individuals in life, and we have different beliefs, morals, and dreams. You cannot change someone to be someone else. It is impossible. And when you expect a guy to be someone else, he won’t want to date you because you are telling him (without these exact words) that you don’t think he is good enough the way he is.

So, if you are telling a guy how he should think, feel, or act, you will probably get rejected sooner or later.

9. You Treat Him As If He Is Stupid

This is just an extension of the above one. If you tell him he is stupid, then he will feel as though he is not good enough for you. Why would a guy want to stay with a woman that doesn’t think he is smart or capable?

10. You Are A Jealous Woman

Woman rejecting a man

I have a friend who will not let any of her girlfriends around her guy. She is extremely jealous and worried that he will see something in another woman that he doesn’t see in her. (And to be honest, he would probably see more trust if he were to look!)

Being jealous is not cute or attractive. It is a way to communicate your lack of trust. What kind of man wants to date a woman who can’t trust him?

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5 Responses to Top 10 Reasons Guys Don’t Want To Date You: Help! Guys Don’t Want To Date Me!

  1. Lina May 31, 2014 at 12:57 pm #

    “You Full Time Job Is Talking” – hahaha… I can’t stop laughing at this one. hahah… I met a guy who talked too much and I could not even say a word after him. He just goes on and on. It was a turn off. But I know he’s a good guy. I just couldn’t imagine being a relationship with someone who does the talking a lot. Also, I had that number 4 tendency. I always say my life is boring, nothing goes my way, and all. I better stop and change it. This is a realization. I better stop.

    • Bellaisa May 31, 2014 at 8:56 pm #

      I find that a lot of people have a victim mentality. I really believe eliminating it and taking responsibility for our lives is the key (or at least one of them) to happiness.

      • Lina June 1, 2014 at 2:06 am #

        I realized that anyone would get fed up with someone who’s always negative. I do. I’m optimistic, but when it comes to relationships and dating stuffs, I have that victim mentality. And most of the time, I talk about it with a guy friend. This is actually a good eye opener for me. Thanks a lot.

  2. Patrick Edlund June 7, 2014 at 7:08 pm #

    Thank you for this wonderful article. I am a guy, and i have to say i agree totally with what you are saying and i think that many girls would have very much use of your knowledge.

    Continue writing articles.

    Regards Patrick

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