I’ve been there before. My man was (is) shy, and it took me a while to figure out whether or not he liked me! He sent me confusing signals, and at one point I actually started to think he hated me – but I was just reading the signals wrong. Now I know that there are some signs that a shy guy likes you, and some signs that he doesn’t.
Signs That A Shy Guy Likes You
Let me take some guesswork out of the equation.
A shy likes you if:
1. He has a hard time making eye contact with you
Trust me, even a shy guy will make eye contact with someone he doesn’t like. It may not be the kind of eye contact that you or I would make, but it will be there.
Eye contact creates a sense of connection, and it will feel very awkward for a shy guy to connect with you if he likes you. Therefore, he will glance up, down, sideways, and then quickly look at you once in a while.
I thought that my current man didn’t like me because he would never give me eye contact. I am the champion of eye contact, so it was something I took quite personally, but shouldn’t have.
2. He turns red or stutters around you
If he is embarrassed, he will act very awkward around you, which includes turning red, stuttering, tripping, etc. There are not many people who are so awkward that they always seem to fumble around someone – unless they like you.
He’s embarrassed because he’s got feelings for you and has thought about you and feels awkward around you.
3. He says REALLY stupid things
When a guy is feeling awkward and embarrassed, it will not take long for some stupid things to come out of his mouth. In fact, my man said some pretty offensive things to me which made me not like him at all for a long period of time.
For instance, when he was told that I liked him, he replied in a cocky manner and said, “Yeah, I know.” He didn’t know what else to say, and by the time the message got back to me, I thought he was the most arrogant man I had met in a long time!
He also subtly insulted my choice of clothing, my mannerisms, and the words I chose to use. Now I know that everything he said caused him to silently slap his forehead, but at the time I thought he meant those things.
4. He’s aware of you – always
- Your friends will see him checking you out.
- You will catch him look at you.
- You will run into him constantly.
- He laughs when you tell a joke – even though he is pretending not to listen.
- He may provide you with something you need, even though he shouldn’t know you need it.
In other words, he is aware of you, what you are doing, and as much as he can gather from watching you.
5. He takes you side in things
If you say the sky is purple, and it turns into a big argument among a large group (and he gets to put in some input), he will likely agree with you.
A shy guy who likes you is going to want to please you, and since he can’t fully interact with you, agreeing with you will be one way to stay on your good side.
Test out this theory next time he is around. Mention how much you like something and then ask him if he likes it too, chances are he will say yes.
6. Every time YOU see him, he looks shy
- When you see him with his friends, he looks shy.
- When you see him at school or work, he looks shy.
- When you see him eating his lunch, he looks shy.
The thing is that not many people will be shy 24/7. There will be people (friends, strangers, etc) that they will interact with. If the common denominator is that YOU see him being shy, then chances are he sees you – and that is why he is shy.
7. He looks angry around you
When a guy can’t get up the courage to approach you and ask you out, he will be angry with himself. You may believe that this anger is directed towards you, but it is really directed towards himself.
You Can Tell When A Shy Guy Doesn’t Like You
If he doesn’t like you, he wouldn’t have any emotions towards you. He would be indifferent about you and probably not notice you at all.
He may be purposefully rude to you or avoid you like the plague.
My point is, you will not see the above 7 signs combined with pure hatred or dislike. If he seems goofy, embarrassed, awkward, but still tries to hang around you, then he likes you.