How Do You Get a Guy To Kiss You? 4 Steps To Land The Kiss!

The thought of kissing him drives you wild! But you don’t want to have to initiate the kiss. So, how do you get a guy to kiss you? How do you make him take the leap and go for it? Following is a 4 step process that you can use to finally get the kiss you want!

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Step 1 – Make Him Notice Your Lips

He will notice your lips in a couple ways:

  • Touch them at moments that seem logical, like when you are thinking about something.
  • Pout when you want something or are upset.
  • Lick them after taking a sip of a drink.
  • Lick them just because you can!
  • Wear lipstick that draws his attention towards you lips.

All of these will get his attention towards your lips and start the process of him imagining kissing them.

Step 2 – Make Him Comfortable in Your Space

Part of the fear that holds him backing for kissing you is the fear he will be in your space, which is not a place that he goes often if you haven’t kissed yet.

You can rectify this fear by leaning in and touching him once in a while or hugging him when he leaves you. Let him know that you welcome him in your space, and he will feel more courageous to REALLY get in it with a kiss.

Step 3 – Let Him Know You Like Him

If he thinks you really, really like him, then you will increase your chances that he will lean in and try to give you a kiss. Fear of rejection is the number one reason that guys will not kiss you. Making him think that rejection is very unlikely is one of the best answers to the thought “How to make a guy WANT to kiss you.”

If he ever tries to touch you, make sure you lean in to his touch and let him know it is welcome to you. He will start to realize that if his touch is welcome, then so is his kiss.

Step 4 – Give Him Opportunities!

Have you done everything else but you are still wondering “How do I get him to kiss me?” then this is the step for you! If he has been thinking about kissing you, is comfortable with you, and knows you like him, then all you have to do is give him tons of opportunities to kiss you.

Don’t shy away from facing him – close enough that if he wanted to he could kiss you. Also, after you give him a hug, lean back and look at him – this will be the number one time that most guys will go for it.

Use the above 4 steps and it’s very unlikely that he won’t give you a kiss. But if he doesn’t then you may need to take the plunge and stop wondering how do I get him to kiss me, and instead worry about how you are going to kiss him!

How Do You Know if a Guy Wants To Kiss You?

It will be obvious. Some signs that a guy wants to kiss you are:

  • He will look at your lips.
  • He will be awkward when greeting you or saying good-bye to you (thinking about whether he should kiss you or not)
  • He will lick his own lips (acting out his thoughts about kissing you)

How Do I Get Him To Kiss Me When He Seems To Scared To Do It?

You may not want to have to kiss him first, but if a guy shows no intention of kissing you, or seems to scared to do it, then you could end up spending a long, long time waiting for a kiss from him. And if you let the moment pass for too long then it could become awkward and possibly never happen. Better you have to do it then it never happens at all!

So go out there and get him to kiss you! And if you have to do what it takes – then do it!

If you have any comments, tactics, or insights into getting a guy to kiss you, then leave them in the comments below!

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7 Responses to How Do You Get a Guy To Kiss You? 4 Steps To Land The Kiss!

  1. natalin May 1, 2013 at 10:17 pm #

    Hello r u shour that this works because my boyfriend knows alote of people and thay say that he wants to kiss mo but every time that i ask him he says no :( and im sad to because there is this girl that likes him and she is whereing makeup to make it look like she is “so hot” and it is not true because she is a two timer to she was dating my boyfriend and her old boyfriend too

    • Bellaisa May 2, 2013 at 2:15 pm #

      It works if he really wants to kiss you. Sounds like he may not really want to kiss you, or he may be nervous about kissing you. And if he goes for that other girl, then he wasn’t meant for you anywase. Don’t worry about other girls, worry about yourself and being a good, fun, and honest person, that is what will attract the guys.

  2. gracie June 8, 2013 at 7:19 am #

    The guy I like a lot likes my best friend but when he is around me he flirts teases and tackles me when we hotub he has teased to me about wanting to make out. He doesn’t seem to like my best friend but is texting her a lot. He rarely texts me but when we are together we flirt a lot. He gave me a hug then we stopped and just looked at each other. I thought he was gonna kiss me then he stole my hat instead then hugged me again good bye. I feel like he likes me wwhen we are together becbecause he flirts and teases me but I can’t tell…?? Help??!?

    • Bellaisa June 11, 2013 at 2:36 pm #

      Sounds like he likes you. He may like your best friend too and just be trying to decide who he likes better. I would just ask him. If you don’t ask him then you are just going to have to keep wondering until he tells you! It’s totally up to you what you do. If you decide not to ask him, then just try and enjoy the flirting and fun…you will find out eventually so don’t stress about it.

      • Karissa April 9, 2014 at 2:33 am #

        My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8-9 months now. And I asked him to kiss me when we (by we I mean me, my friends, and him) go to the mall next Friday (good Friday) but I don’t know how I should get him alone, when, and where (place)! Help please.

        • Bellaisa April 11, 2014 at 2:40 pm #

          If you want to kiss him, just be honest with your friends and let them know that you would like some time alone with him while you are at the mall. Maybe go for a walk with him outside or go somewhere where you have to be close but not a lot of people are around (movie, glow-in-the-dark mini-golf, etc.) Your friends should be willing to help you out if they know what you are trying to do.

          If the kiss doesn’t happen at the mall, don’t worry about it. Sometimes plans don’t work out, no matter how much you want it.

          Wait for the perfect moment – it doesn’t have to be comfortable – in fact, you will probably feel very nervous and uncomfortable. But the moment will be perfect to at least attempt to kiss.

          • Karissa April 14, 2014 at 4:30 am #

            My friends know that I want to, in fact this whole trip was their idea. But I just think he is being REALLY shy about kissing me, cause one of my friends asked him if je wanted to kiss me and she said he did so I’m kinda lust getting mixed signals.

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