Take a look at the following quote picture about things women say to men. Then keep reading.
I originally saw this on The Oasis, and the woman who posted it suggested that we try to replace the words with something else. For instance, for number 3 – she said why don’t we say, “I trust you.”
At first my feminist side said this was a load of crap, but as I read it I realized that I say all of these things on a regular basis. Do you?
Changing Our Mindset
I do agree with the woman on The Oasis though. She was right. We should be saying kinder things that are not about playing games or making a guy guess how we really feel. I think, though, that many of us do this because we have been raised to do it.
We’ve watched our mothers, aunts, and other women say these exact same things.
Moreover, we’ve been taught that speaking our mind is not appropriate. But saying those above things is?
Guys are the first to exclaim that they are not mindreaders. And, I think that years of guys not understanding what women really mean when they say, “Wow!” or “I guess so!” shows that this is true. They haven’t caught on to our little subliminal messages yet, so that doesn’t bode well for future men.
I think it’s time we start saying what we mean. We can, you know. All it requires is a different mindset.
For instance, saying what we mean can help guys understand us better and allow our relationships to be happier and healthier. That’s worth it right?
Saying what we mean can remove the anger and stress that we feel when guys just ‘don’t get it’.
Saying what we mean can teach younger girls to give it to their men straight and be open and honest about how they feel.
When It Is Too Mean To Say What We Mean?
I get it. Not a lot of women want to tell their man that they are being downright stupid. It is not a nice thing to do. In fact, it’s kind of mean. But no meaner than saying, “WOW!” when our man clearly knows that they were acting in a dumb way.
I think compassion is really the key to changing the way we think, react, and talk with our men.
We need to have compassion that they may not talks as quick as we do or pick up on stuff as quick as we do.
We need to have compassion for them when they are trying to figure out what we want but don’t understand.
We need to have compassion for them when they are doing things not to hurt us, but because that’s how they do things.
Our anger should be replaced with compassion.
I’m not saying they are pitiful people who are not worthy of us. I’m saying that having compassion for others is the best way to avoid playing games with them and telling them how you feel in a straight and kind manner.
The mindset of compassion can really change your life in a big way. And, it can change the lives of the people you love too. Like your men.